Problems and Control

Yes, I believe problems of all three phases can be addressed responsibly-if there is communication.

Communication is key.  I understand this because sometimes I am good at it, and sometimes I am terrible and then I think the problem is out of control.  That is because I am not asking for help or advice.

There are times when I might think there is a major problem, but nobody else does because I have not shared what is going on. 

People are meant to interact and be in group settings.  It is usually always better to have more than one person come up with a solution.

Also, I heard this saying once-it is not a problem unless I make it one. 

Problems can be resolved responsibly when people act accordingly.

# 12 Right? Responsibilty?

I am responsible when I am held accountable-for myself or by others.  I have accepted the fact I am committed and I have an obligation.

A right, is a privilege to do something.  I have been granted permission out of the norm and am allowed.

I am not entitled to rights, I am entitled to being responsible.  Primarily for myself.

#11 Lead? Follow?

I do both.  I believe both are essential to survival.  I do enjoying being responsible and leading, but I also have had really good teachers that allowed me to follow and at times take the lead.

I believe in any society or relationship it is essential to lead and be able to listen to others.  I had a mentor tell me recently that being a good listener allowed for better communication skills, which builds leadership.

For me it is essential to know the cause that I am leading or being lead into.  That will also determine the position I take.  There are a lot of things I know nothing about but am willing to follow someone I trust to learn.

# 10 cont...

I would like to learn to love to listen.  Practicing listening would be ideal in my life.  I am practicing listening and I will be honest, it is hard.

I know I could learn to love it, if I could learn to accept how much it would help me communicate.  I just get caught up in the fact that it seems like I am not doing anything or saying anything and then it hits me, that is practicing listening.  Then of course I will quit practicing and go and comment, or interrupt, or suggest and I have to work on making time to practice.

When I do practice and it goes well, I really learn a lot.  So, I believe it will be best if I practice regularly and actively and I may learn to love it!  That is my goal.  I will practice listening and love it.

# 10 Practice.....

Hello.
When I was younger, like in my teens, twenties and thirties, I LOVED, to practice Basketball.  I lived for it and love it.  I still love it, but I do not practice it anymore.  Life took a change and I can no longer play.

I lived for basketball.  It kept me sane, in school, and out of trouble.  It afforded me many awards and rewards.  I went to college on scholarship and enjoyed a privileged part of life because I loved it so much and practiced all the time. 

I would be in the gym at midnight.  I practiced to get better and because there was nothing I would rather do than play ball.  What I never anticipated was what I would do when I could not play anymore.  I got angry and did not pick something healthy to replace all that time.

I am grateful for the people that would practice with me because when I quit being angry I remember a coach from the Portland Trailblazers telling me "Don't Quit".  I took that all wrong in the beginning, but now I realize that things change and I can practice other things in life with the same zest.  I just have to be willing to find out what stirs that passion the same way.

At this time it is meditation.  It is pretty cool and I am learning to love to practice meditating.  It is amazing to go to the gym and meditate.  This is something I can take anywhere, and I look forward to learning what I will love to practice again.