Problems and Control

Yes, I believe problems of all three phases can be addressed responsibly-if there is communication.

Communication is key.  I understand this because sometimes I am good at it, and sometimes I am terrible and then I think the problem is out of control.  That is because I am not asking for help or advice.

There are times when I might think there is a major problem, but nobody else does because I have not shared what is going on. 

People are meant to interact and be in group settings.  It is usually always better to have more than one person come up with a solution.

Also, I heard this saying once-it is not a problem unless I make it one. 

Problems can be resolved responsibly when people act accordingly.

# 12 Right? Responsibilty?

I am responsible when I am held accountable-for myself or by others.  I have accepted the fact I am committed and I have an obligation.

A right, is a privilege to do something.  I have been granted permission out of the norm and am allowed.

I am not entitled to rights, I am entitled to being responsible.  Primarily for myself.

#11 Lead? Follow?

I do both.  I believe both are essential to survival.  I do enjoying being responsible and leading, but I also have had really good teachers that allowed me to follow and at times take the lead.

I believe in any society or relationship it is essential to lead and be able to listen to others.  I had a mentor tell me recently that being a good listener allowed for better communication skills, which builds leadership.

For me it is essential to know the cause that I am leading or being lead into.  That will also determine the position I take.  There are a lot of things I know nothing about but am willing to follow someone I trust to learn.

# 10 cont...

I would like to learn to love to listen.  Practicing listening would be ideal in my life.  I am practicing listening and I will be honest, it is hard.

I know I could learn to love it, if I could learn to accept how much it would help me communicate.  I just get caught up in the fact that it seems like I am not doing anything or saying anything and then it hits me, that is practicing listening.  Then of course I will quit practicing and go and comment, or interrupt, or suggest and I have to work on making time to practice.

When I do practice and it goes well, I really learn a lot.  So, I believe it will be best if I practice regularly and actively and I may learn to love it!  That is my goal.  I will practice listening and love it.

# 10 Practice.....

Hello.
When I was younger, like in my teens, twenties and thirties, I LOVED, to practice Basketball.  I lived for it and love it.  I still love it, but I do not practice it anymore.  Life took a change and I can no longer play.

I lived for basketball.  It kept me sane, in school, and out of trouble.  It afforded me many awards and rewards.  I went to college on scholarship and enjoyed a privileged part of life because I loved it so much and practiced all the time. 

I would be in the gym at midnight.  I practiced to get better and because there was nothing I would rather do than play ball.  What I never anticipated was what I would do when I could not play anymore.  I got angry and did not pick something healthy to replace all that time.

I am grateful for the people that would practice with me because when I quit being angry I remember a coach from the Portland Trailblazers telling me "Don't Quit".  I took that all wrong in the beginning, but now I realize that things change and I can practice other things in life with the same zest.  I just have to be willing to find out what stirs that passion the same way.

At this time it is meditation.  It is pretty cool and I am learning to love to practice meditating.  It is amazing to go to the gym and meditate.  This is something I can take anywhere, and I look forward to learning what I will love to practice again. 

# 9 Where am I wrong?

Good Afternoon,

I am wrong when I am not responsible, or I do not hold myself accountable-and then I lie about it. 

I believe my honesty truly starts with myself and nobody else.  Most people do not know or care about what I do, but internally I know and eventually it will surface.  I think that is true of the majority of mankind.  We have an internal true direction.  An internal right and True North to do the correct action.

When we do not follow it as an individual, there is turmoil.  As a group we become chaotic.  No society can exist long in that state.

I used to have this long set of rules.  I tried to live by other's dictates.  I began to seriously resent it as I got older and became very self-righteous and figured I had the money and the means I would do as I pleased.  That only worked for so long.  I paid a consequence and was expected to be compliant.  It still took me a while to accept my "wrongness" and until I did I was not changing.

Today I check my intent and my awareness in situations.  I am a selfish person.  I want what is best for me, but I also am a team player and I want what is best for others.  For me that is owning my own shit.  I may not like it, but when I own that I am wrong I learn the most and that is not by me doing whatever I please whenever.

So if I am wrong, it may take a minute, but I will accept it and own it and do what I can to make the situation right.  It is learning for me.

#8 Future

Yes, I agree with the idea that my future is up to me.  I know I have to do the work to get where I want to go, I also have learned I have to have a vision or a goal.

I am the kind of person that truly believes in the Law of Attraction and the Universe will provide.  The Universe is massive and it will give me exactly what I put out there.  I believe I have learned this the hard way and the accepting way.  I hear that saying that Karma is a witch.  Karma is what I make it.

To say I do not know, I need help, and to communicate is a way for me to go forward, but I have to also be able to talk about what I want.

Three years ago I had a chance to go back to work in the field I love-mining.  I blew it, literally, I got a DUI.  It has taken me three years to get back into that field.

At first I was pitiful, then angry, then resentful and I got all of that ten-fold.  When I quit blaming others because I like to drink and just accepted I can do it anymore, my life started to turn around.
The gifts are unreal.  I am in school, my relationships are wonderful, and I have the beginning of a new career.  I am responsible for my behavior and my dreams. 

To be happy and have a "clear" direction the possibilities are endless.  I could not dream as big as I could drink.  Today I KNOW the sky is the limit.  Just a little effort goes a long ways.  I read somewhere that 20% effort yields 80% results.  True.